Working Moms: Facing Setbacks
Monday was a really, REALLY rough day. I scheduled the Florida State Board test to become a Direct Disposer, and for months have been studying like crazy.
A Direct Disposer is licensed to help families with Direct Cremations. I work as an Office Manager for an office that does such work. It is by far the most fulfilling job I’ve ever had, and my plan is to get my license so I can help families even more.
I thought I was prepared. Every spare minute (not spent working, doing homework, and coaching/watching soccer practices was spent studying for this test. It was extremely important to me to pass the first time.
The passing grade is a 75%, and I earned a 66%. Devastated doesn’t begin to describe what I was feeling. I made it out of the facility and to my car, where my husband was waiting, and burst into tears.
I felt like a failure. Passing this test would have been such a HUGE accomplishment, and it would open doors for me in my career.
The pain of failure was crushing. I felt like I couldn’t breathe, and I couldn’t stop crying.
Everyone I talked with tried to make me feel better. They said I can take the test again, and it was ok.
It was NOT ok! I wanted to go home, crawl in bed and just cry myself to sleep.
Unfortunately, I had 5 and 6-year old children waiting on me to coach soccer. Even worse, the athletic director called me and asked if I could take his children as well.
Running around and cheering anyone for anything was the LAST thing I wanted to do. This age group needs a LOT of patience and encouragement, and I just didn’t have it in me.
Regardless, I couldn’t let them down.
We arrived to the soccer field an hour early. My sons and I practiced until the other kids arrived. As each kid arrived, and laughed with the silly games they played… I started to feel better.
By the end of the practice, everyone was laughing and the parents (even those from the other team), said I’d done such a great job and the kids all told me they had so much fun!
Overcoming a Setback
Yes, to me, failing this test was a major setback. I had to pay $380 when I sent in my application. Fortunately, it won’t be quite that much… but still, it’s not money we can afford to just throw away. However, the support I received from my friends was amazing… and making the kids smile erased all of the negative effects of the day.
Look at each setback as an opportunity, and don’t let it destroy you. Yes, you need to sit down and cry a little… but learn from it, and find some kids with which you can kick around a soccer ball. I promise, you won’t fee down for long.