Series on Grief
The last few days I told you about my journey through the stages of grief.
While I was stumbling through the stages, different people would make comments on the situation. I’d like to think that some of these people didn’t realize how hurtful their comments were. Maybe they felt they needed to use humor to diffuse the situation, but there are just some things you don’t say to a person who is either in the process of losing someone… or has just lost someone.
Inconsiderate Comment #1
He’s in a better place. Well, I’m sure he IS in a better place, but I want him here. Now my son will never have the chance to know his father.
Inconsiderate Comment #2
You’ll get more money out of him dead than you would have if he was alive. You did NOT seriously just say that. Yes, Michael qualified for Social Security because his father passed away… but I would have traded that for Mike to have not died.
Inconsiderate Comment #3
At least he’s not suffering anymore. Well, yeah, that’s great… but now the kids and I are suffering. Yes, it may be selfish… but I wanted him there with us.
Inconsiderate Comment #4
You must be relieved that this is finally over. I’m not even going to comment on this one.
Inconsiderate Comment #5
You’re young, you’ll find someone new. Yes, I did end up meeting someone… and we have a pretty good life… but at that time, I didn’t want to find someone new. I wanted Mike back. He was my fiancée and the father of my youngest son. He had a lot of faults, and I lot of demons he couldn’t control, but he was still ours.
Unfortunately, all of these were said by people close to me. Come back tomorrow to see what you SHOULD do when someone you know has lost someone.
Did you miss the first part of the series? See them here: