What Kind of Mom Are You?
Have you ever wondered if you’re succeeding as a Mom? Well, of course you have… we all do. I have never met a mom who believes she has got the “Mom” thing down. We constantly second guess our decisions, and we beat ourselves up for every mistake.
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I want to be a really good mom, but I know I mess up a LOT! The hyper-critical voice in my head is constantly screaming: Am I feeding my kids enough vegetables? Do I spend enough quality time with them? Will my children need therapy in the future?
I think this is why I LOVE movies about moms that are struggling with their identities. Watching them makes me feel like I’m not alone.
My two favorite movies are “Moms Night Out” and “Bad Moms”. If you haven’t seen these movies…turn off the computer and go watch them. They will seriously, at some point, make you cry.
They both have similar plots in that the moms (Allyson and Amy) are trying to be the best moms they can be, but are constantly feeling like failures. I TOTALLY get that!
Moms Night Out
In “Moms Night Out”, Allyson (Sarah Drew) is a stay-at-home mom with three kids, with a husband who frequently works out of town. She relies heavily on her faith, but is still struggling. I felt SUCH a connection with her at the very beginning.
Allyson is a germaphobe like me, she wants to be a good mom but can’t keep up with the chaos (like me), and she constantly doubts herself as a mom (again, like me). She decides to plan a girls’ night out with her best friend, and her pastor’s wife (Andrea Logan White and Patricia Heaton). Their plans go crazy, and they spend the night in a wild adventure.
Ultimately, Allyson learns that she doesn’t have to be perfect. The movie has a Christian-based theme, and is a great family film (my children and I have watched it DOZENS of times). It showcases both the power of family, friendship, and faith.
In “Bad Moms”, Amy (Mila Kunis) is a working mom with two kids (with two wildly different personalities). She is CONSTANTLY running around in an attempt to take care of her husband, her kids, her jobs, school activities, extracurricular activities…and the PTA.
When Amy catches her husband cyber-cheating on her and has a run-in with the evil PTA president (Christina Applegate), she realizes she’s had enough. She goes to get a drink, and meets two other moms (Kristen Bell and Kathryn Hahn) who are facing their own dramas.
The moms decide they are tired of constantly being judged. They decide to take on the PTO president who terrorizes the school.
This movie isn’t quite as “family friendly”. It definitely shouldn’t be watched with the kids around… but it speaks to me the most. The movie is filled with bad language and sexual discussions and scenes… but I feel like I’m one of those moms.
Bad Moms also focus on family and friendships. It also focuses on the pressure moms deal with in fitting in and feeling like they don’t measure up.
I don’t necessarily feel like I’m judged by other moms. However, I do feel like I’m running a frantic race to take care of everyone, and leave little time for myself.
What Kind of Mom Are You?
Are you Allyson… a stay-at-home mom who is overwhelmed with taking care of children, a husband, and a household. Are you struggling with your faith and feel like a constant failure?
Are you Amy… a working, newly single, mom who is runs from work to school to after school activities, just to rush home feed everyone and feel like a constant failure?
I ALWAYS feel like a constant failure.
I want to be the best mom I can be. Furthermore, I really, really want to have the friendships both of these movies glorify.
Both movies have a lot of things in common… but the most important one is that we don’t HAVE to be perfect. Who cares if a mom at the baseball field has cuter clothes, or a mom at your child’s aftercare has a nicer car.
In the end, does it really matter? Nope! All that matters is that YOU do the best you can. YOU are enough, and you’re perfect just the way you are.