How Do You Balance Being a Working Mom?
The last few weeks have been really hectic. It seems as soon as I get one huge project completed, I have ten more that pop up. They’re like Gremlins; I think all of the rain we’ve been receiving is multiplying them.
I LOVE being a mom, and I love my job…so, of course, I love being a working mom… but sometimes being a working mom is really, REALLY hard.
My schedule is the normal Monday through Friday, 8:00 am until 5:00 pm, so if I want to fit anything else into my schedule, I have to be super organized, and super creative.
On top of working full-time, I’m also going back to school (at 40) and working on building this blog (my creative outlet). In addition, this year, we decided we needed to forget about our extreme exhaustion and busy schedules, and let the kids play organized sports.
The spring season brought baseball, and since we were a new sports-family, we only let my 9-year old (actually, he’s 10 as of the 15th…. not sure how that happened). It was two nights a week, with the occasional Saturday practice. We had a blast, so when soccer season came, we totally had the schedule down. In fact, since we had so much fun with baseball, we decided to let BOTH of the little ones play soccer.
How hard could it be?
Well, two kids (in different age groups) means four nights a week at the soccer field. Then, since that wasn’t enough, I decided to try my hand at coaching the Pee Wee soccer team. I can’t get MY 6-year old to listen to me, how am I going to get a tribe of them to listen?
Fortunately, we only have one night a week where practice ends at 8:00 pm, since I have to race home to get the kids dinner (thank God for my MIL who usually has it ready) and baths… and I get to sit down and start my homework.
The weekend before last brought two mid-terms on top of regular homework/studying AND a group project.
….and because that entire mess STILL wasn’t enough, my 16-year old decided he wanted to play soccer for the high school. Don’t get me wrong… I’m ecstatic! Seeing him run around practicing with other teenagers makes my mommy heart want to burst. Now, my worry is that I’m going to miss his games because of our soccer practices.
In the midst of balancing work, school, and four-night-a-week soccer practices, we are also working on having our house built. We found a community with the same builder that was closer to the soccer field (AWESOME… since we will be there so much) versus the “middle of nowhere” with the other community. Took a little begging, pleading, and a bunch more paperwork… but we have a bigger house with the community we want, and a bigger yard (my husband is stressing about the cost of fencing the yard and they haven’t yet broken ground…Please Lord send me patience).
You are AMAZING… how do you juggle it all?
If I had a dollar for every time someone tells me how amazed they are on how well I’m juggling everything… and they could never do everything I do… or that they are too tired to do everything I do… or too hold to do everything I do, I’d be able to pay for the house now, and save 30 years of mortgage payments.
The secret is…..
I’m constantly exhausted and some days I feel like I am a complete failure. I want to be the best Officer Manager I can be (and hopefully soon a Direct Disposer…wish me luck, the State Board retake test is Monday the 23rd), the best mother I can be, the best wife I can be, the best student I can be, the best soccer mom I can be, the best Pee Wee soccer coach I can be… you get the idea.
On the days I’m not coaching, I have my Florida Funeral Law and Rules book with me (and Michael’s tablet) so I can study while Gage is practicing… which makes me feel horrible because I can’t watch the amazing things he’s doing.
When I’m working hard to complete the HUGE amounts of homework I’m doing after we get back from practice, I’m missing out on relaxing, spending time with my family, and writing for my blog. I know my blog needs a LOT of work, and I don’t have the time to work on improving it.
On the weekends, if I’m studying to catch up with my homework, or preparing for the State Board test, I’m not spending time with my children, especially my older four who live with their dad.
We NEVER have the “right” food in the house, because I don’t have time to plan out my grocery trips… and end up with partial meal items… and wine. After all of that above, I need the wine!
So, why are you doing it?
The moral of the story is that while I’m super-stressed and freaking out, my kids are having a blast playing soccer. They are meeting new friends and forming bonds. Every piece of parenting literatures promotes the benefits of playing sports.
I might be super-stressed and freaking out, but after coaching my Pee Wee soccer team, I actually feel 100% better EVERY SINGLE TIME! I’ve had one monster-parent, but other than that… those kids can drag me out of the worse moods and totally brighten my day! Go Yellow Team!!!
Yes, I might be super-stressed and freaking out, but I’m working hard to improve my career so I can help give my family a better life.
Of course, I’m super-stressed and freaking out, and I HATE, HATE, HATE that I haven’t had time to work on my blog… but I know that I’m not the only working mom who is going through these situations, I want to inspire other moms to not give up. Keep fighting! Stay positive! It’s totally worth it.